Problem:
Therapist: (Tango Move 1-mirror and reflect present process.) You don't feel safe enough to respond, so now you play it safe and stay behind your wall? (She agrees.) But last night-things are changing a little because Jon was able to confide in you about how hard he finds his work. He took a risk-and you felt like he was "letting you in" and you appreciated this. Beatrice: Yes-it was a risk. He took a risk 'cause he could be criticized as having a weakness-a learning problem. Therapist: He let you in and you saw that and were able to respond. You appreciated him taking that risk. (The therapist heightens and highlights an exception to the cycle- responsiveness.) Jon: (To Beatrice.) Yeah. You listened and you didn't start blaming me or criticizing. Beatrice: Why should I blame you? Jon: (Puts his head in his hands and bursts into deep sobs.) Therapist: (Tango Move 2-deepening.) (Pauses, leans forward, hands Jon a tissue, waits, and then speaks softly.) You were really, really worried about that, right? You were really scared. (He nods.) You feel bad that you have never fit in this job, and you were so scared that Beatrice was going to judge you and tell you that you were disappointing, yes? (He nods and weeps.) (Turning to Beatrice.) Did you know how big a risk it was for Jon to do that-to confide like that? Beatrice: (Beginning to tear up.) Well-yes-I guess so-I realize now-I guess he was scared. Need Assignment Help?