Problem One: Write a Rant To begin, list all any nasty and/or judgmental thoughts you're already thinking about Certain People. Who's offending you most right now? What do you hate most about them? What dreadful things have they done to you? What behavior should they change? Try to be honest with yourself on this...Scribble down all your most controlling, accusatory, politically incorrect thoughts.
Problem Two: Change Places Now go through your written rant and put yourself in the place of the person you're criticizing. Read through it again, and be honest-could it be that your enemy's shoe fits your own foot? For example Phase One: The Rant "My kids take me for granted. They expect me to drop whatever I'm doing and focus on them, anytime. I'm sick of them taking me for granted." Phase Two: The Rewrite "I take me for granted. I expect me to drop whatever I'm doing to focus on my kids, anytime. I'm sick of me taking me for granted." 3. After sharing with a friend. Did the discussion change your understanding of Projection? How? If it did not, share why you think it did not. (Like: was your partner willing to get honest and vulnerable about their projections? Were you?)