Creating "I" Messages. Double space in Word, font 12 Roman letters:One way to improve your verbal communication is to own your thoughts and feelings.
You-language is a way of speaking that projects responsibility onto another person and tends to be judgmental.
I-language, on the other hand, is a way of speaking that owns responsibility and is descriptive rather than judgmental. Study the following example: You-language statement I-language statement "You make me so mad!" "I feel very angry when you interrupt me when I'm telling a story."
Complete the following two parts of your written assignment in one Word document. First, show your skill at translating You-language messages into I-language messages.
Secondly, apply this skill to your own communication. Part 1 Translate the following You-language statements into I-language messages. Sentences to be translated:
1.You are so selfish.
2.You don't understand a word I'm saying.
3.You are too nosy; mind your own business.
4.You totally humiliated me in front of our friends.
5.You never help me around the house.
Part 2
Think of a You-language statement that you find yourself using when you communicate with a friend, family member, spouse, or romantic partner.
Compose a paragraph that explains the situation in which you have used this You-language message. Consider how you would translate this You-language statement into an I-language message.