Discussion:
Conflict can be detrimental when it is intense and frequent. However, when conflict is resolved or managed well, it can promote growth in relationships. It can provide opportunities for re/negotiating boundaries, explore alternative thoughts, take new perspectives and as a result, bring people closer together.
This questionnaire strives to identify conflict resolution/management styles. Read the questionnaire, then respond to each item as best you can. If you are not be able to print it, record your answers on a sheet of paper while you go through the questionnaire. (which i already answered and paste the scores below.) Compute your score per directions, then determine what your predominant conflict resolution style is. Then complete Discussion .
Conflict Resolution Questionnaire before preparing Discussion which i already answered to those questions and above are my scores. please answer the questions A, B or C base:
Discuss in a 625 words:
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Discuss only A, B, or C.
A. 1. What is your predominant conflict resolution strategy?
2. How effective has it been in resolving/managing conflict?
3. Do you think your conflict strategies are situational? (Do you employ different strategies in different situations, or are they stable across situations?)
4. What is one thing you would like to change or reinforce pertaining to your strategy?
5. Was there any instance in your life when conflict actually brought you closer to the other person? What do you think contributed to that outcome? Share only what you feel comfortable sharing. https://moodle.csun.edu/theme/mPower/pix/s/smiley.gif
B. Discuss at least 5 considerations that couples, or individuals make before deciding on parenthood. State if these considerations are important, and why.
C. Think about how your parents brought you up, and how you are parenting your children now, or, if you do not have children, what you observe in the parenting of children in your family by relatives. What differences do you see? Are these micro-, or macro-level variables that have led to those differences?
Aversive Communication Strategies
1. Discounting: The message to the other person is that his or her needs or feelings are invalid and do not have legitimacy or importance. E.g. : "You've been watching TV all day; why do you expect me to come home and do the bills?"
2. Withdrawing/Abandoning: The message is "Do what I want or I'm leaving". The fear of abandonment is so powerful that many people will give up a great deal to avoid it.
3. Threatening: The message here is "Do what I want or I will hurt you". The most typical threats are to get angry or somehow make the other person's life miserable. E.g. : "Hey, okay, I won't ask you to help me again. Maybe I will ask somebody else."
4. Blaming: The problem, whatever it is, becomes the other person's fault. Since they caused it, they have to fix it. E.g.: "The reason we are running up our credit cards every month is that you never saw a store you didn't like".
5. Belittling/denigrating: The strategy here is to make the other person feel foolish and wrong to have a particular need, opinion, or feeling. E.g.: "why do you want to go to the lake all the time? All you ever do is get allergy attacks up there."
6. Guilt-tripping: This strategy conveys the message that the other person is a moral failure, that their needs are wrong and must be given up. E.g.: "If you don't trust me, that tells me something is very wrong with our relationship."
7. Derailing: This strategy switches attention away from the other person's feelings and needs. The idea is to stop talking about them and instead talk about yourself. E.g.: "I don't care what you want to do, right now I feel hurt."
8. Taking away: Here the strategy is to withdraw some form of support, pleasure, or reinforcement from the other person as a punishment for something they said, did, or wanted. E.g.: John said, "I'm not really in the mood for hiking; it's boring," after his partner was unwilling to invest in a new camera.