Could many of the problems which exist between a couple really be a gender role "thing" that, itself, could be explored more deeply to find out resolution (as opposed to simply being dropped)? For illustration, if a couple were to discover how the two sexes communicate so differently that the irritation becomes too great, and then learn how to tailor their communication (women shortening their messages, men lengthening theirs), could they possibly make headway? What do you think?