Question: The question is, "Please give a description of your own encounters with each of the Horsemen (Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling) within your own psyche, when in a hard spot in a primary (couple) relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, you can use a past relationship". Add to the paragraph below to finish with each of the Horseman. I can easily see criticism and defensiveness in myself by observing Gottman's talk with the Four Horsemen. In an earlier relationship, criticism began as a general sense of criticism about character and defensiveness followed almost definitely, because criticism was perceived as an attack to be defended, not a piece of information to be learnt. Somewhat less dubiously was contempt when it seemed to be a matter of exhausting the issue over a period, as Brittle noted, a relationship can endure the Four Horsemen if partners figure out how to repair properly. Need Assignment Help?