To prepare for this assignment:
Select two couples you know who have been together for at least 4 years. Compare their views of their partners. Do they see each other through "rose-colored glasses"? Do they see each other as supportive and positive in their interactions with each other? How do you think the differences between these couples relate to their potential for staying together?
Think about the adult attachment patterns as they apply to each couple. Are they secure or preoccupied/ambivalent or avoidant/dismissive?
How do you think that pattern will influence the longevity of the relationships?
Compare these couples using Sternberg's triangular theory of love. Where on the triangle does each couple fit?
Think about the U-shaped pattern of marital satisfaction described by Belsky.
Think about the role of positive perceptions in marital satisfaction as described by Cobb, Davila, and Bradbury.
The assignment (1-2 pages):
Compare and contrast the relationships of the two couples you selected:
Briefly describe each couple's relationship: length of time together, ease of interaction, and amount of conflict.
Describe their perceptions of their partners, considering any potential illusions such as those identified by Cobb, Davila, and Bradbury.
Apply Sternberg's theory to each couple, and identify the position of each couple on the triangle.
Briefly describe each couple's attachment style and levels of emotional support.
Describe each couple's current level of marital satisfaction, and explain what you believe to be their likely progress toward more or less satisfaction.
Predict which couple you think is more likely to remain together. Justify your prediction.
Note: Be sure to protect the identity of any persons you describe.