Discussion:
PART 1:
An EQ test and the results reveals that my overall emotional intelligence score is 68. The score is based on the average of two components tested. These components include the personal competence and social competence. I scored 69 in personal competence and 68 in social competence. These results reveals that I need to do a lot to improve my emotional intelligence. The score shows that I sometimes demonstrate emotionally intelligent behavior but not usually. Possibly, I could be brushing people off when something is bothering me or I could be acting out when I am upset. I could also be making decisions without considering different options. These are some of the actions that are limiting me from demonstrating emotionally intelligent behavior. There are a number of strategies that I can apply in order to improve my emotional intelligence. The first strategy I should take is to manage my self-talk. I can achieve this in many ways.
First, I should treat every situation as unique. This will allow me give appropriate response to any give situation. I can also control self-talk by being accountable for my actions and accepting mistakes as part of life. All these activities will prevent me from brushing people off when something is bothering me. Another strategy I should adopt is to sleep on a given issue or to be patient. Time reduces emotional influence and make things clear.
The last strategy is that I should set aside some time in my day for problem solving. Time is very important. It allows the mind to sort important things from non-important. It also allows the mind and brain to cool down. This prevent emotionally-charged responses from taking over. I should set aside a 15-minute period each day whereby I allow my mind to wander freely and churn reasonable thoughts for problem solving.
PART 2
Dan, who is my role model is striving to build his EQ skill on the social competence. My friend has problem managing social awareness and relationship with others. He often differs with others. He tends to consider himself "better" than others. He has problem picking up on emotions in other people and getting what is really going on. He also has problem letting emotional awareness guide clear communication. In other words, my friend is defensive. He tends to value his side of arguments. He strives to justify his stands in no matter what the case is. He also get annoyed easily. For example, in the morning, Dan differ with Beth over an issue. However, after sometime, Dan realizes that Beth was right. A closer look at Dan's situations reveals that he doesn't allow every thought to settle in his mind. He tends to reacts very fast with all emotions and hence give subjective and self-centered responses, which in most cases, opposes the truth and expectation.
Interestingly, when Dan is given time, he can break down the issue and understand it better. In fact the way Dan respond to the same issue now is not the same as he will respond after 2 hours. Dan's problem is lack of enough time to decompose the issue and respond to it accordingly. The case reveals that by the time Dan gets to work and discusses the morning's event with friends, he will have at least decompose and can clearly respond to the issue. Initially, Dan believed that Beth was not right. However, when Dan gets to work, he begins to think Beth is right.
One observation that can be made from Dan's case is that time is an important factor when it comes to management of EQ. It is clear that time allows one's emotions to settle. It enables the person to see things from broader perspective.
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