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Respond to this post: I would like to first say thank you for responding to my post. To answer your question I might contradict myself, but this is a personal belief. I don't think people can build relationship safety fully. What I mean is that you can be vulnerable enough with someone but there is not a 100 percent guarantee that just because the person accepts the vulnerability they will always do so. It's like what Gottman was talking about in chapter 4, you can have a husband who does so many positive things in his marriage but the moment he does a negative thing, that's all the wife focuses on; vice versa as well. Gottman mentions so many different couples and how different the marriages are, one has to realize that even the best-looking marriages or relationships fall apart. I have personally seen where a marriage was very secured until it wasn't which is another reason why building relationship safety is never full proof. There is time when marriages are 20 years long with normal amounts of fighting until the day the marriage comes to an end. Sometimes it takes one spouse by surprise because they thought 20 years was a good amount of time and that the marriage would never end. Need Assignment Help?