Need to response to my classmate main post:
During the adolescent years (12-18), I had no structured identity. Growing up in a troubled environment, a ministers' daughter, a military brat, and being the first born; all responsibility fell on my shoulder. From 12 to 15, I had no sense of who, what, when, and where I was. I did what people told me to do, I mimicked everything I saw (because everyone else was doing it), and all my associates bullied me into doing negative things. Once I hit 10th grade, I knew what I wanted to be; a Marine (just like my father). I embarked on the "foreclosure" of Erikson theory. I couldn't find my own identity, so I adopted my fathers'. I didn't get into the Marine (due to a high school injury). So, in the 12th grade I went to the Navy and applied; got rejected because I wasn't willing to leave my 8 month old baby. Throughout the years from 12-18 years old I shaped my whole identity around my father not myself.
When I turned 19, that when I realized the answers to the questions I have been asking God and myself. This is when I started going through the "identity achievement" of Erikson theory. I wanted to please myself and no one else. The only thing that mattered was doing the right thing to take care of my children. Even though I'm an adult now most of motives are still fixated around my father. I think these are some theories a person never grows out of. But they mature in them according to God's will.